How Do I Get My Groom Involved With Wedding Planning

Monday, February 9, 2015

I hear every bride saying, “I wish my groom would get involved”, “ I wish he would share his thoughts”, or “My groom doesn’t care what I do, he told me it’s my show”. I may not have the power to answer bride’s prayers but I can supply some tips on how to get the groom of yours more involved. I may not have had my wedding yet and not even half way there but I have heard these comments from friends and I knew I didn’t want to be saying the same thing. From the very beginning of the process I have included my fiancé in the process.

Let’s all say this together, it is OUR day, not just my day. This means both parties put in the work just like a marriage. If you plan on having an awesome wedding by all means you must be awesome together as team when it comes to planning YOUR wedding day!

Wedding Planner

The very first thing we did after we informed our families, and agreed to make it Facebook official (Yes, I am marrying a Facebook queen) was to get to the store to buy a binder, scrapbook paper, and tab dividers. Following that errand, we stopped at Barnes and Noble and picked up the sought after Southern Weddings Magazine and The Knots Wedding Checklist Book.

See my DIY Wedding Planner Video:

Once you have the wedding planner created how you would like. Leave it out in the open so it is in sight in mind! Ours is on our coffee table. We review our checklist every two weeks or so to ensure we are on track and allowing ourselves plenty of time to get things done.

Print It Out

As you start to get quotes from venues print it out and add it to the book. On the print out you both can make notes of what you like and don’t like. This is helpful to make your final decision on a lot of things. Our venue is a one stop shop, we have having the ceremony, reception, catering, and bartending all in one place. I have printed out the menus, drink menus, anything with price quotes, etc.


A lot of inquiries with wedding vendors have been initiated with email. Some vendors are awesome at email, others need to take a class on etiquette. Yes, I said it. The more creative vendors aren’t great at following up or a phone conversation to drive the tone of an email a lot better. Therefore, we keep each other copied on emails. If the vendor is wise enough to see this, they will reply all so we can both be informed.



It may be interesting to your groom, how the Pinterest app has made it to his iPad or Smartphone but he will be glad you did.. even if it takes some convincing. Kyle has benefited from it a long time ago, when we first started dating I put it on his iPad during football season so I had something to keep me busy and had my account logged in. For Holidays and birthdays he used it to his advantage for gift ideas and to see things that I like in this make-believe cyber world. It now comes handy for wedding ideas, budget plans, printable checklists, groomsmen outfits, wedding colors, and bachelor party ideas.  You can share your styles and ideas to collaborate your own ideas.


I wish I could talk more about doing pinterest projects but I’ll save that for later when we actually begin that process. There are some projects that I have put my groom responsible for since we aren’t hiring a wedding planner, and felt like it’s not a difficult task that would need so much of my attention. Kyle initiated his own project with getting his guests addresses and adding them to a spread sheet. Kyle is also a human calculator and much better at spreadsheets and formulas so he also took the initiative to figure out of budget and we both keep track of receipts when we make payments and record the expense. The one thing I did request he helped me with was finding a DJ and entertainment. He has many friends that are DJ’s which has been helpful and made it easy for him.
Good luck fellow brides. Please feel free to share any addition tips, or your experiences with getting your groom involved.


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